In my last blog posting I explained that we have to find others to love on us as parents, to ground us, to walk in the issues that we find ourselves in with our kids. I am not so crazy to think that at least on person out there didn't think something like, "I can't do that because if they knew me they wouldn't like me" or something like "I don't want everyone knowing my stuff!" TRUTH ALERT! No one thinks you or any of us have it all together! We are all flawed, marred, and messed up from the fall of mankind in the Garden of Eden and none of us have it all together. At best we all have a house of cards and there has been no glue used in building it.
Here are some of the excuses that I have heard and probably some of you have also.
- I don't want to burden others with my stuff. Really? You don't think these Christian people you know couldn't show you the love of Christ in your darkest hour?
- As a Christian, I should be able to do this on my own. Really? Where does that show up in scripture? I think the word tells us that we need to bare one anothers burdens.
- I am too embarrassed by teens actions. Really? There is nothing that teens do anymore that surprise any of us. Reality of what our teens are facing are shown on television everday and when they get caught up in it, well its not surprising anymore.
- It is so hard to trust these people. Sounds like you have a problem that you will need to work through in building trust of others. Hey praying, really praying together will help you with the trust issue as they demonstrate Christ in your life.
- We are so busy with the mess in our lives. Think about this. Because you are so busy this may have helped lead to some of the issues you are dealing with and struggles with your teen. Maybe, just maybe the time needs to be carved out to get someone into your lives to help you carry this heavy and unbelievable load!
- The kind of people you are talking about don't exist in the real world. Your church is there for you and can help you during this time frame. Youth Ministers, your Pastor, and Sunday School or Small Groups are a great place to start and ask the hard questions. Pray hard prayers. Live the hard life as you are dealing with this mess.
- I am afraid that some of the things in our home others might think badly of me. Sure there is always that potential but in reality, those that I have worked with over the years, the stuff that they worried about; not that big of a deal. Their teen coming back to the Lord, or the victory that occurred in their marriage is much better than the stupid stuff that anyone could ever worry about.